Such feelings come from low self-esteem, and this state of mind is a real obstacle to achieving happiness.  That's because our self-esteem, or the way we view ourselves, has a huge impact upon how we lead our lives.  From the time we were children, we instinctively look to others for approval, and many of us receive messages that we may be deficient in some way.  These messages might imply that we aren't skinny enough, dressed well enough, rich enough, religious enough, etc.  Such messages can make us self-critical and lead us to compare ourselves with others, which can lead us to believe that we don't measure up.  The truth is that each one of us has gifts and limitations, and it is important for us to learn how to live harmoniously with both.

    We have the power to make changes and realistic choices, and can look for our own success in the opportunities that present themselves to us or opportunities that we create.  It is never too late to learn to work on creating a more positive self-image.  Try doing new and interesting things that make your life more fun and exciting.  For example, you could take up a sport or activity that you have always wanted to do, but never felt confident about.

    And don't neglect to take care of your body. You are only blessed with one, and it requires some maintenance!  It's important to eat well, sleep at least 7 hours a night, get exercise, and pay attention to personal hygiene and appearance.  If you are not happy with what you see in the mirror, maybe you can boost your self-esteem with daily exercise or walk. When you look good, you are very likely to feel good as well.

    Most importantly,you should always do your best to avoid people and situations that leave you feeling bad about yourself.  Instead, look for associations and experiences that leave you with positive feelings.  And pay attention to your internal dialogue.  If your internal conversation is negative, stop yourself every time you realize it is happening, and immediately restate the thought with a positive focus.  Cultivate a positive attitude towards yourself, and others will surely respond.

    Remember, you are a unique and special person with your own fabulous talents and gifts.  I hope your conversation with yourself, and an introspection will help you to see these gifts and talents more clearly and to use them for the highest good for yourself and for others.