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10 TIPS:
How to be a Successful and Happy
Wife
By: Muhammad Alshareef
If you don't
understand any of these, I invite you to a meaningful,
enlightening dialogue to dispel any doubts. Please do e-mail me.
Please do not carry around with you wrong impressions. Wrong
impressions can be and have been fatal.
1. All women are blessed with charm and attractiveness and
beauty; use these God given gifts-your beauty and grace -- to
win and allure your husband's heart.
Use the beauty Allah has bestowed you with to win the heart of
your husband.
2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful
greeting.
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an
exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, with
children, neat and sweet smelling, and a properly made bedroom
and how will it impact his love for you? Also imagine the
opposite of it and what will it do to him !
3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn described in
Quran and try to emulate them. The Qur'an and Tradition describe
the women in Jannah with certain characteristics, such as their
silken wear, their beautiful big eyes and their singing songs to
their men. Try it, wear good looking clothes silk for your
husband, make over your eyes to enhance their look and you may
sing to your husband.
4. Wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with
earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in
the Qur'an. As a wife, continue wearing jewelery and the pretty
dresses to please your husband.
5. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: Men generally seek women who are light-hearted
and have a sense of humor. The Prophet(s) told his companion,
Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he could
make her laugh.
6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again.
This is one of the most important techniques to ensure spousal
happiness. The opposite of it is the characteristic of the women
of hellfire.
7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a
simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. What's the big
deal ? Remember, there are no winners in a domestic row. When
you fight back, you are only adding fuel to the fire. Watch how
sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look,
I'm sorry. Let's be friends." Therefore, never forget the three
magic words, " I Am Sorry " You can win the world with these
words and make this life much more hassle-free.
8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to
Jannah.
The Prophet(s) is reported to have said that any woman who dies
in a state while her husband was pleased with her, shall enter
Jannah.
9. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is an obligation in Islam. Your husband is
the head of the household. Respect that right.
10. Pray to Allah to make your marriage and relationship
successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah for
the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this
world and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah swt into the
Paradise.
May Allah swt give us the favor of changing what we can change
(ourselves), patience with what we cannot change (like our
spouse), and the wisdom to understand the difference.
In conclusion: Never forget to make prayer to Allah swt to make
your marriage successful.
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