1.
Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last
time
us men went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband
wants
his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up
for
her too. Remember that Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would
always
start with Miswak (toothstick) when returning home and always loved
the
sweetest smells.
2.
Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alayhi
wa
sallam) had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call
your
wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that
hurt
their feelings.
3.
Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily
lives
until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -
which
brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to
'bug'
him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does
and
focus on that.
4.
If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not
comment!
This is one of the ways Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam)
used
when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (radi Allahu
'anhunn).
It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5.
Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often.
Smiling
is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.
Imagine
life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those
Ahadith
when Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) would kiss his wife
before
leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
6.
Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take
for
example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the
home,
and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only
acknowledgement
she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the
soup.
Don't let that be; thank her!
7.
Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made
her
happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what
gives
your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask
her
and work on repeating those times in your life.
8.
Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look
down
upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi
wa
sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (radi
Allahu
'anha) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow
camel.
He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9.
Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah (sal
Allahu
alayhi wa sallam) - would race his wife Aisha (radi Allahu
'anha)
- in the desert. When was the last time we did something like
that?
10.
Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (sal Allahu alayhi
wa
sallam): "The best of you are those who treat their families the
best.
And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!
In
conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make
your
marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!
